What you have missed is your feelings in this situation. You often
find women excited at the prospects of a man willing to marry them or
call them wife without considering if it is something he deserves.
Just because a man says they can see you as their wife does not mean
that you have to have the same vision. What you are pointing out are
flaws and insecurities on your partners behalf. If you haven't had a
one on one that says these are the things I do for "us" so that we
can work out, then it is time. If he doesn't see the value in it, or
it is not enough for him you need to find out what specifically it
is that he needs or wants, and if you are able or willing to
accommodate them. Some key things to think about are can you deal
with him questioning your level of commitment and for how long? Do
you see a husband in this man outside of the fact that he can see a
wife in you?