Question 1: " Most men seem to have a strong aversion to women they see as gold-diggers, but why is it that women who have ambition and are self-sufficient, seem to appeal to them even less?"
Question 2: " I met a man several months ago and with whom I hit it off very well. During our conversation, it felt like we had known each other for years and were getting reacquainted as opposed to just meeting for the first time. Within a couple of months, he started talking about how he felt I was the woman who was going to be his wife. I've heard this before from men I dated and they turned out to be wrong. How do I know if this man for real?"
Question 3: " I have been dating a man for several months and lately our interactions have begun to revolve around him due to extra demands in his life. In spite of the fact that I work hard to modify things to suit his scheduling demands, moods and temperament, he talks about feeling unimportant to me. I thought my actions to go more than half-way to meet him were evidence of how important he is to me, but it doesn't seem to come across to him in that fashion. What have I missed?"
Answer: What you have missed is your feelings in this situation. You often find women excited at the prospects of a man willing to marry them or call them wife without considering if it is something he deserves. Just because a man says they can see you as their wife does not mean that you have to have the same vision. What you are pointing out are flaws and insecurities on your partners behalf. If you haven't had a one on one that says these are the things I do for "us" so that we can work out, then it is time. If he doesn't see the value in it or it is not enough for him, then you need to find out what specifically it is that he needs or wants and if you are able or willing to accommodate them. Some key things to think about are can you deal with him questioning your level of commitment and for how long? Do you see a husband in this man outside of the fact that he can see a wife in you? -Tyear
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What you have missed is your feelings in this situation. You often
find women excited at the prospects of a man willing to marry them or
call them wife without considering if it is something he deserves.
Just because a man says they can see you as their wife does not mean
that you have to have the same vision. What you are pointing out are
flaws and insecurities on your partners behalf. If you haven't had a
one on one that says these are the things I do for "us" so that we
can work out, then it is time. If he doesn't see the value in it, or
it is not enough for him you need to find out what specifically it
is that he needs or wants, and if you are able or willing to
accommodate them. Some key things to think about are can you deal
with him questioning your level of commitment and for how long? Do
you see a husband in this man outside of the fact that he can see a
wife in you?
find women excited at the prospects of a man willing to marry them or
call them wife without considering if it is something he deserves.
Just because a man says they can see you as their wife does not mean
that you have to have the same vision. What you are pointing out are
flaws and insecurities on your partners behalf. If you haven't had a
one on one that says these are the things I do for "us" so that we
can work out, then it is time. If he doesn't see the value in it, or
it is not enough for him you need to find out what specifically it
is that he needs or wants, and if you are able or willing to
accommodate them. Some key things to think about are can you deal
with him questioning your level of commitment and for how long? Do
you see a husband in this man outside of the fact that he can see a
wife in you?
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